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Write your own story

Monday, October 13th, 2014

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I was reading ‘Ten Top Tips For Focusing Your Writing Creativity’ by Lisa Cherry, a social media connection and I particularly liked this tip:

‘Allow yourself to be risky with your writing. If you’ve got something to say, say it but say it well. People want to read something challenging, something different and something that speaks to them’.

Over the weekend, while catching up with my e-mails, work and reading a few of my favourite friends posts, I came across this beautiful illustration and quote on facebook:

‘Write your own story’ from Healing Light Online

“You are the designer of your destiny. You are the author. You write the story. The pen is in your hand, and the outcome is whatever you choose”.

This illustration (I am a visual learner) spurred me to read through some of my previous blog stories and I decided to re write one called ‘Serendipity alive and well in London’  This was a story about an offline networking event, I attended in London. I felt  this experience was challenging enough to write about.  The post had a reasonable response from my social media network, so that encouraged me to do some more searching online, using google. I then came across Everyday Learnings  and recognised a few faces and authors, who over the nurturing years have become my friends, through connecting on social media networks.

I agree with the authors mentioned above, I do find the whole process of writing posts and connecting with my network thoroughly rewarding. So here is my question to you readers ‘How many of your friends and social media connections do you know, have written their own story, book or e-books?’


“Surround yourself only with people who are going to take you higher” – Oprah Winfrey


Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates  and leads using social media.



Monday, November 11th, 2013

On Friday I invited Byron Davies, Assembly Member for South Wales West, for a café style conversation at Morgan’s Hotel in Swansea. I had met Byron for the first time in LLanrhidian, Gower when I attended a talk by Simon Hart, the Conservative Assembly member for Carmarthen.  On first meeting Byron, he struck me as being a life force for Gower with a healthy self-awareness and refreshingly social media friendly.

 Drinking laws

I live on the edge of Swansea City and highlighted my observation about the positive effect Morgan’s Hotel had on the Marina, since it opened. We shared strong views about keen licensing laws and the effects on local residents. We exchanged real experiences in Swansea City and praised the local police, in tackling drink related crime.  Byron was a police officer in the Metropolitan police before becoming a MP, so has a good insight into City law and order.

Women in business and the Welsh language.

Encouraging more women in business and politics was a question I put to him and was pleased to hear Byron would like more women to step forward and join his party. We briefly touched on the requirement of the welsh language in obtaining posts here in Wales. Welsh is my second language but I feel as passionately as the next, when asked about my nationality and birth place.

Trading and shopping parking powers

Like so many other shoppers (over the past two years) when visiting my daughter, now living in Mumbles, I have been penalised for shopping or indeed visiting local café and parks around the castle and thought how absurd it is to deter so many locals and visitors to this fabulous area. So when I read through some of Byron’s activities I was delighted to read he has taken up this issue with local councils. We should be encouraging shoppers to visit our beautiful coastline cafés and shopping centres not penalising them.

“Council officers need to start looking at ways of encouraging shoppers away from the out of town centres where they can park easily and for free and instead, and to head instead for our traditional town, city and village centres.

Mr Davies added: “It is heartening to see that shoppers are taking advantage of the free parking to support shops in the town. It is crucial that our High Streets and town centres have a level playing field with the out of town retail parks and are able to offer free parking.

“I would still like to see that period extended to two hours so that people can visit a few shops and pop into one of the cafes for a cuppa as well.”

Our Armed Forces

We shared a deeper bond when discussing our armed forces.  Both our sons are based at Colchester Barracks and have been operational overseas in Afghanistan.

Remembrance Sunday . Yesterday, we remembered all those who had served our country and sacrificed their lives.   Earlier, I clicked on Byron’s twitter profile and this photograph and caption brought a smile to my face.

Not often you get to meet an Omaha Beach Veteran!



Sharing information and experiences are all part of an open, supportive social media network and I was pleased to read Byron’s profile and activity clearly mapped out on his  website

‘Welcome to my website, which will highlight my work for you as your Welsh Conservative Assembly Member. Here you can find out my latest news and surgeries. I am always happy to help so if you have an issue use the contact section of the website to contact me’ Byron Davies AM

His availability and contact details are included below.

Ground Floor
11 St James Gardens
SA1 6DY  Tel: 01792 654 049

Cardiff Office
National Assembly for Wales
Cardiff Bay
CF99 1NA   Tel: 029 2089 8929


Carolyn Williams, helping you to re-energise for your business.

Breathing for business. I mentor business people and help them improve their focus, energy and clarity for new business.

Focus For New Business

Monday, May 13th, 2013



With clarity comes focus

Are you struggling with limiting self – belief and focus when doing business?  Do you want to attract new business?

Are you comfortable using social media networks for new business leads?

Do you understand how to attract new followers, advocates using social media?

Are you actively using social media to boost your revenue?


I provide mentoring and presentation workshops on how to use social media for your business. I help you:

Unlock your pricing potential

Gain clarity and focus doing business using social media

Help shift any issue that prevents you from moving forward in gaining new business

Improve your listening skills

To get out of your own way


Stay focused and contact:


Carolyn Williams

Breathing for business. I mentor small business owners & entrepreneurs on how to improve their focus – energy to open doors that attract new customers and boost new revenue.



Mean what you say

Tuesday, January 29th, 2013




Exploring this message “A strong personal brand has a reputation of meaning what they say!”, I want to ask you this open question:

Do we get our message right?

When we feel stale and reach a plateau ( a great example of this is, when we are trying to lose weight ) it generally means we have arrived at a natural place in our cycle. I thought I’d explore this phase and list some positive triggers to help you shift up a gear.

Here’s a wonderful quote from personal branding and peak performance mastermind Sunil Bali in his blog called Shift :

‘By changing the pain and pleasure you associate with certain actions, your emotions will automatically drive you to take action, which you can’t achieve by using logic alone.

If you want to get better results, perhaps it’s time to change your cerebral gear?’

His lesson clearly shows that with the right help, you can move things to another level, if you choose to.

Here are a few of my tips to help you move up a gear.

1. Sift through time wasters, energy drainer’s contacts and circles. Make a choice to limit non-supportive interactions that don’t energize you.

2. Integrate activities. Socialise with connections that are like-minded. Find people in your network who share common interests and develop your creative side around people and activities you love.

3. Objectively stand back and check how you can improve your brand message, so that you can move it up a level.

4. Be an active listener, this highly necessary skill affords us a new ‘insight’ that shapes our brand message to reach new customers.

5. Be an active learner: You would think learning takes more time from you, but actually there are so many new tools and new ways of doing things that can free us up.

6. Lighten up! Spend time that for you is productive and fun.

7. Rekindle your creative flare.

8. Perception. Your fresh take on life and work with a different perspective, releases new energy.

Here’s a quote that can be your mantra:

“All difficulties can become opportunities”

Acting on this quote and shift we can then look forward to that next phase.

Are there any changes you can make? Can I help you make them?

My e-mail address is :

Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates and leads using social media.




Proving nothing is impossible

Thursday, January 10th, 2013


Something John Murray said, all the way in Afghanistan sparked this post……

When I grow up, I want to be … Childhood dream jobs

Train drivers, vets and footballers – our childhood dreams remain the same, so can revisiting them help our careers now? Frances Booth asked a class of children to draw their ideal jobs”.

Memories of that famous child advert that went “When I grow up I WANT TO BE” …a movie star, a world famous singer, song writer, a famous footballer…

Some of us are hooked on singing, dancing or cooking contests on the television. I am glued to Africa and ALL THINGS POSSIBLE.

James Arthur won X-Factor singing Impossible and I helped by consistently voting him in as a WINNER and I am 63. I live and breathe in the Swansea sea air. I watched and welcomed back the Swansea City Football players win their well deserved Swansea City Premier Football League Cup in taking their fight to WEMBLEY.

Swansea City 2 Chelsea 0

Yesterday, I posted SWANS ‘little terrier’ Nathan Dyer’s, announcement (his sheer belief) in dreaming for another Premier Cup at Wembley, proving beyond doubt nothing is impossible.

Since this post our small but determined Swansea City Club, have got through to the final at Wembley. This match will take place on February 24th 2013.


Photo Getty Images

So I’ve learnt to become smart and connect with my inner child.

What is your dream?


Do you re-energise your clients?


Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates and leads using social media.



Doing IT Differently

Wednesday, January 2nd, 2013


Doing my first exercise this morning, in response to Richard White’s, Sales post:

“A key aspect of sales is action. A person with poor selling skills but who takes lots of action can outsell a master sales person who takes absolutely no action. If you are starting 2014 needing a shot in the arm to get your business moving then forget your business goals for a while and start focusing on your personal goals. This free mini-course will show you how and when you do the exercises you will have your goals all laid out before you. Then start making a plan to start achieving these  goals via your business.  Write down WOW! inspirational goals, which is the key to getting motivated enough to take serious sales action…..even if you don’t feel like it!

If you manage a sales team then get them to watch this and do a personal goal setting session with them and get them to share their Wow!” 


This exercise is easy for me, I am self-motivated.

Here’s my reply,  “A great starter for ten Richard”.

I’m naturally self-motivated. Focusing on what is right for me, the most useful tool.

Naysayers constantly say when our goals go wrong or fail – “You’ll never make it!”

Reviewing and Adjusting are most helpful doing words”.

“When things feel like they’re not working out, focus on what’s working right”.

Seasonal calendar changes dictate the need to do things differently. In winter our bodies dictate that we eat warmer fuel and wear warmer clothing.

I am in the process of reviewing all my activities and adjusting them accordingly.

Will any of you join me?  I’d love to hear from you if you decide to do anything differently.


Here is a beautiful testimonial from Felix P. Nater, a trusted business from North Carolina. He said “It’s true Carolyn. Your thoughts are your majesty. You have an innate ability for conveying thoughts with natural beauty”.

Do you re-energise your clients?


Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates and leads using social media.





Sharing Christmas Greetings through social media

Monday, December 24th, 2012

Photo courtesy of a lovely connection Wendy Mason 


This beautiful picture is being shared through social media. A gift from a connection on Twitter, Facebook, Google, Friendfeed and Linkedin can help add Sparkle to your Christmas.


Smile think Sparkle.   Carolyn


Do you re-energise your clients?


Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates and leads using social media.



First Impressions

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012


I woke up this morning to a beautiful sky and worked on an exciting new proposal which will centre on ‘First impressions do count’?

Whenever someone meets you for the first time they will form an impression of you. What kind of impression depends a lot on your attitude towards them? Psychologists claim that a person can form an impression of you in as little as nine seconds.

So what can we do to give the right impression – be positive?
To be more positive we need to have a Positive Mental Attitude.

Key or Cue word.

P Positive M Mental A Attitude

Having a positive mental attitude can help us speak with conviction when we are selling our products or services. Our physical preparation for selling is obviously of paramount importance to us. It is easy to see that we need to look after our health to the extent that we feel great. Our appearance and manner influence our client’s reaction to us and that our ability to communicate our message effectively, depends on our body language and speech.

Self-awareness and the customer.

I wanted to ask you …

Who was your first memorable connection who welcomed you when you walked into your first networking group and why?
What was it they said that enticed you to connect?
Was it an invite to network or an offer of help? Or ….was it their looks?

On Monday I posted Café conversations and it attracted the chatty members who love meeting over a cuppa to develop the things that matter to both parties.

One of the things that come to mind when meeting someone face to face is:

First impressions do count…
Meeting up for Café conversations flow when you are happy in yourself, when you value yourself first and others. So when you greet someone for the first time your body language confirms that greeting. If you’re tired, tense or unhappy, the person you converse with will pick up on your feelings. Focusing on what matters tends to spring board the conversation to another level if you’re warm and open. So for me looking after yourself is a starting point, so that you can walk up to someone with confidence and va va voom, leaving a lasting impression.

Good energy stays around a lot longer when you have left the conversation.


Carolyn Williams

Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners and entrepreneurs  to help raise their profiles online..

Swansea ·Cardiff


If you’re stuck in a rut and want to change your thinking pattern

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

Several months ago I arranged a chat with a creative connection when I felt I was being swamped by a certain mind-set. Since then with a purpose, I look at new ways to be creative about networking and business. A café style conversation was one of them, leading to a series of more conversations. This month is already bubbling away.

Thanks to Marcus Cauchi, I was given an introduction plus an insightful call about a networking group in London, called The Liquid List, which led to an invite to give a talk to ex forces and forces. I follow this invite with my most memorable invite to date, the very private and humble man, our Wales rugby head coach Warren Gatland OBE.


Head coach of Wales Warren Gatland celebrates after beating Ireland in their Six Nations rugby match at Croke Park in Dublin

So here is my question to you:

How about adding your own tips to change your usual thinking pattern?

As a fitness professional, scientifically we know that walking improves our cardiovascular system, let alone improved levels of oxygen and the good endorphin chemicals that make us want to smile!


So I will kick-start the process by listing these helpful tips:

1. Take a walk and look for something interesting
2. Change one or two of your daily ritual habits.
3. Ask the most creative person you know to join you (I did)
4. Wear purple underwear for inspiration. (Okay, I borrowed that one!)
5. Create an idea that will get you really excited.
6. Key is in the human and nature’s environment Lisa
7. How about taking the time to stop? Robert

8. Do something nice for someone which is totally out of your character. Andrew Horder

9. I am a great fan of change/movement/action Robert Zarywacz  Editor of Business in Action
10. Walking is one of the simplest and effective ways of seeing the world (or a particular part of it) and benefiting from it. John Paul
11. A Brisk Walk – & Lots of Water ! always works for me – Hydration is vital for muscle power and brain function. Milton Rodrigues
12. I always put one evening aside just for family. Disney movies are best cos they give me a good laugh. Popcorn, Fire lit and Pjs. Samantha Kelly
13. Start doing some manual operation with your non-dominant hand. Massimo Luciani
14. AND try to find a meeting or event I’ve never been to and meet people I’ve never met, discussing something I never heard of. Susanne
15. Enjoying shuffling our feet through the fallen leaves in Autumn. Phillip Khan-Panni

Hope this gets you thinking differently? Maybe you can add your own?


“Surround yourself only with people who are going to take you higher” – Oprah Winfrey


Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates and leads using social media.


Are you making a dent in the way people act and think?

Wednesday, October 24th, 2012

Mark Schaefer wrote ‘as a rule of thumb that only about two percent of your blog readers leave comments’. That’s a generalization I have found that holds up across many types of blogs. Readers may be too busy, too shy, or just not interested enough to comment. So you need a LOT of readers before you start getting comments.

So how do you know if your blogs are making an impact?

Be the Spark!

With the recent trend of resurrecting old blogs, I felt the need to talk to people about the true impact of my blogs. Make an effort and get to know them better. I’ve started to call up my readers and favourite authors. After one invite, Lisa Bakker called me this morning. Hearing the response of readers gives you energy. Confirming comments when genuine, have a re-energizing impact.

Two thing, inside and outside resources. Outside resources for me have been weekly mastermind Skype’s with Marja Botha van Doorn . I have now linked her with Lisa and myself. Engaging with like-minded coaches (thanks Marja and Lisa.) Just knowing that I have people to turn to for intellectual stimulus and support, is invaluable for me, so that I gain a greater resolve. I’m taking risks and implementing things in my future business that are stretching me.

The internal resources are my skills, mind-set, a solid personal foundation. Most entrepreneurs get started with little clarity on their foundation and how important that is to leaping. I remember linking with Suzy Greaves who wrote Making the Big Leap and my son has certainly owned the phrase ‘A single leap of faith’ actively doing parachute jumps (including over Arnhem last year) across Europe. These jumps give a real meaning to that phrase. Having a strong foundation (roots ) to leap from, is crucial to success.

Shifting bad habits is needed to overcome that initial fear. The biggest habit change for me is about valuing (pricing) my service in this recession. Using a check list to measure and balance my income, meditation, physical activity, healthy eating and engaging with other successful business owners. Starting my day with this check list discipline, has been a significant driving force in my personal power, clarity and confidence.

Do you re-energise your clients?


Carolyn Williams


Breathing new life into business. I provide social media campaigns for small business owners & entrepreneurs to help increase their followers, advocates and leads using social media.